Every year on 19 November, a lesser-known celebration rolls around: International Men’s Day. Less glamorous than Father’s Day and often overlooked in the holiday calendar, International Men’s Day is a day to shine a light on men’s contributions to society, raise awareness about their health, and break down stereotypes. Think of it as a thoughtful nod to the blokes of the world, minus the usual sports banter and barbecue jokes (well, mostly).
The Origins of International Men’s Day
International Men’s Day is a relatively new addition to the holiday scene. It was first celebrated in Trinidad and Tobago in 1999, thanks to Dr. Jerome Teelucksingh, a history lecturer who wanted to create a day dedicated to men’s positive contributions. He chose 19 November to honour his father’s birthday, and since then, the day has grown into a global celebration recognised in over 80 countries.
The day’s goals are straightforward yet ambitious. International Men’s Day aims to promote positive male role models, support men’s health and well-being, and encourage gender equality. It’s about highlighting the diversity of men’s experiences, breaking down stereotypes, and addressing the challenges men face – from mental health to social expectations.
Why Do We Need an International Men’s Day?
With events like Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, and International Women’s Day, some people might wonder, “Do we really need an International Men’s Day?” The answer, as it turns out, is a resounding yes. While men are often stereotyped as strong and stoic, the reality is that many face unique challenges that deserve attention. For example:
- Men’s Health: Statistically, men are less likely to go to the doctor, leading to a range of health issues that could otherwise be managed or prevented. Prostate cancer, heart disease, and high blood pressure are all more common in men, and a day dedicated to men’s health is a chance to raise awareness and encourage preventive care.
- Mental Health and Suicide: Men’s mental health is a huge focus of International Men’s Day. Worldwide, men are significantly more likely to die by suicide, with social stigma around discussing emotions often contributing to this statistic. By encouraging open conversations and breaking down the “tough guy” stereotype, the day serves as a reminder that mental health is just as important as physical health.
- Positive Male Role Models: International Men’s Day also celebrates men who make a positive impact, from teachers and fathers to community leaders and friends. It’s about highlighting kindness, responsibility, and respect, showing that masculinity isn’t a one-size-fits-all concept.
- Equality: The day promotes gender equality not by competing with International Women’s Day, but by acknowledging that healthy, positive masculinity benefits everyone. Equality means recognising and addressing the needs of all genders, including men.
In short, International Men’s Day is a reminder that men, like everyone, are complex human beings with their own struggles, dreams, and strengths.
How International Men’s Day is Celebrated
International Men’s Day isn’t a flashy affair; there are no big sales, elaborate gifts, or party banners. Instead, it’s observed with events that focus on health, mentorship, and personal growth. Organisations, schools, and community groups may hold seminars, workshops, or mental health discussions. Talks on topics like fatherhood, resilience, and kindness are common, and many charities use the day to fundraise for men’s health causes.
A lot of workplaces also get involved, encouraging discussions on work-life balance, mental health support, and fair treatment in the office. It’s an ideal day for celebrating the everyday efforts men put into their lives – whether they’re juggling work and family, mentoring young people, or simply being good friends.
In the UK, for example, the focus is often on men’s mental health, with charity events and campaigns drawing attention to the support available for men who might be struggling. In Australia, groups hold barbeques to fundraise for men’s mental health charities (yes, sometimes the stereotype does apply), while in the US, schools and community centres may organise mentoring events and discussions on healthy masculinity.
The Pillars of International Men’s Day
International Men’s Day is built around six key pillars, and while these might sound serious, they’re designed to support and celebrate men in all their diversity:
- Promoting Positive Male Role Models: Celebrating men who make a difference, whether it’s through their work, their families, or their community efforts.
- Celebrating Men’s Positive Contributions: Recognising the ways men contribute to society, from family life to social, cultural, and environmental causes.
- Focusing on Men’s Health and Well-Being: Addressing physical and mental health, and encouraging men to look after themselves and seek help when needed.
- Highlighting Discrimination Against Men: This includes areas like workplace discrimination, custody issues, and the social stigma surrounding mental health.
- Improving Gender Relations and Promoting Equality: Supporting positive relationships between men and women, and ensuring that both genders are treated fairly.
- Creating a Safer World for Everyone: Working to reduce violence and encourage healthier, more respectful attitudes within communities.
These pillars serve as a reminder that the day is about positive action, celebrating men’s contributions while supporting a more inclusive, understanding world.
So, What Can You Do on International Men’s Day?
If you’re wondering how to mark the day, here are a few simple (and enjoyable) ways to get involved:
- Check in on a Friend: Whether it’s a simple text or a chat over coffee, reaching out can make a world of difference. Sometimes, all it takes is a “How’s it going?” to open up a meaningful conversation.
- Learn More About Men’s Health: Take a moment to understand common health challenges facing men, whether that’s prostate health, mental health, or physical fitness. Small steps, like scheduling a check-up or talking openly about mental health, go a long way.
- Celebrate the Men in Your Life: International Men’s Day is a great chance to let the men in your life know they’re appreciated. A little acknowledgment, whether it’s for being a good dad, a supportive friend, or a hard worker, can mean a lot.
- Get Involved in Local Events: Many communities hold discussions, workshops, or charity events to raise awareness for men’s issues. Check what’s on in your area and consider attending or donating to a men’s health charity.
- Challenge a Stereotype: This is a good day to reflect on stereotypes around masculinity and encourage open, honest conversations about what it means to be a man today. Whether it’s in a classroom, at work, or at home, a bit of discussion can go a long way.
Why International Men’s Day Matters
While it might not be as widely celebrated as International Women’s Day, International Men’s Day is growing in relevance. It’s a reminder that men face unique challenges too and that these challenges deserve attention and empathy. It’s not about overshadowing other observances, but about acknowledging that a balanced, healthy society supports everyone – and that means valuing men’s health, happiness, and humanity.
At its core, International Men’s Day is about embracing the many ways to be a man, beyond stereotypes and expectations. It’s a day that celebrates fathers, brothers, friends, and colleagues, recognising that “being a man” means different things to different people. And it’s an opportunity for men to find community, connect over shared experiences, and maybe, just maybe, swap a few BBQ tips along the way.
So, this 19 November, take a moment to appreciate the men around you, check in on a friend, or simply enjoy a quiet minute of gratitude for the chaps who keep the world turning. Because, whether they’re strong, sensitive, or a mix of both, International Men’s Day is their day – a day to be proud, be heard, and just be themselves.
